Singing Your Song

SINGING YOUR SONG

When a woman in a certain African tribe knows she is pregnant, she goes out
into the wilderness with a few friends and together they pray and meditate
until they hear the song of the child. They recognize that every soul has
its own vibration that expresses its unique flavor and purpose. When the
women attune to the song, they sing it out loud. Then they return to the
tribe and teach it to everyone else.

When the child is born, the community gathers and sings the child’s song to
him or her. Later, when the child enters education, the village gathers and
chants the child’s song. When the child passes through the initiation to
adulthood, the people again come together and sing. At the time of marriage,
the person hears his or her song.

Finally, when the soul is about to pass from this world, the family and
friends gather at the person’s bed, just as they did at their birth, and
they sing the person to the next life.

In the African tribe there is one other occasion upon which the villagers
sing to the child. If at any time during his or her life, the person commits
a crime or aberrant social act, the individual is called to the center of
the village and the people in the community form a circle around them. Then
they sing their song to them.

The tribe recognizes that the correction for antisocial behavior is not
punishment; it is love and the remembrance of identity. When you recognize
your own song, you have no desire or need to do anything that would hurt
another.

A friend is someone who knows your song and sings it to you when you have
forgotten it. Those who love you are not fooled by mistakes you have made or
dark images you hold about yourself. They remember your beauty when you feel
ugly; your wholeness when you are broken; your innocence when you feel
guilty; and your purpose when you are confused. You may not have grown up in
an African tribe that sings your song to you at crucial life transitions,
but life is always reminding you when you are in tune with yourself and when
you are not. When you feel good, what you are doing matches your song, and
when you feel awful, it doesn’t.

In the end, we shall all recognize our song and sing it well. You may feel a
little warbly at the moment, but so have all the great singers.
Just keep singing and you’ll find your way home.

Manatee and Clean Waters Ceremony

 

Manatee and Clean Waters Ceremony

Hand out outline of ceremony, information about the manatee crisis and the effects of cruise ships on the  Florida waters.

Manatees have been removed from the  endangered species list during the last administration, and in the last year 20% of this gentle animal’s population has been lost due to starvation as a result of pollution and habitat loss. Only 7500 manatees remain in Florida. For an update on the situation, see https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2023/oct/24/manatees-florida-endangered-species-review  and https://foe.org/blog/cruise-ship-effects-marine-life/

The following link explains more about the symbolism of the gentle manatee.

https://whatismyspiritanimal.com/spirit-totem-power-animal-meanings/mammals/manatee-symbolism-meaning/#Manatee-Symbolism

A conche outline is on the deck of the ship as we sail from port, laid over a blanket. We have created a sacred spiritual space. The elements of grass, water, sand, and salt will be available in bowl on an altar nearby, along with more information about the crisis.  People are invited to take one each of the one they resonate with. The elements will each be in a bowl.

State our intention – restoring of a thriving manatee population and a pristine marine environment

Read the poem,

My heart is the ocean, full of colors, depths, and dreams.

You can easily dive into my waters,

Get lost in my arms,

And quench my thirst

of grace

and love.

My heart is the ocean.

Your ocean.

by       Alexandra Vasiliu

 

Let’s take a moment of silence to reflect upon any wonderful memories you have about the sea and sea animals.

Form a circle. Play conche music. https://youtube.com/watch?v=ePT3VA-mSzQ&si=hYgCJd08m8GmmXsh

Call in the four directions. (see instructions)

Gaya renews herself as we become trustworthy stewards of the planet.

Take in three cleansing breaths inhaling compassion, love and trust, and exhale uncleanliness, overuse of the planet and environment and selfish unconsciousness.

We commit ourselves to the symbols of the manatee:

  • Breathing
  • Compassion
  • Curiosity
  • Generosity
  • Peace
  • Shapeshifting
  • Spiritual Love
  • Tranquility
  • Trust
  • Water

 

I am aware, I am connected and I am gentle.

Explain the four symbols

Sand – cleansing through passage of time

Grass symbolizes renewal, the healing of the gentle manatee

Salt is purification and the long-lasting friendship with all god’s creatures

Water symbolizes life. We one with life, and with all beings of our beautiful planet.

Release of the elements

Repeat affirmation I am aware; I am connected and I am gentle

 

End with Gratitude prayer

 

 

 

Winter Candlelighting

List of Supplies Needed

(1) Candle Lighting Display

(1) Triple Wick Candle

(7) 3×8 candles ( 1 of each: Red, Blue, Green, White, Yellow, Pink, Purple)

(1 or More) Large bowl(s) that can withstand heat.

(1 or More) Candles that will fit into the large bowl.

(1 per Participant) Individual hand held candles for each participant

(1 per Participant) Small card or paper and matching sized envelope

(1 per Participant) Piece of “Flash Paper” sized to hold one to three words written on it

(1 per Participant) Sharpened Pencil

(1 per Participant) Program with Order of Service

 

Preparation for Service

 

  • Create Program with Order of Service
  • Combine the Envelope, Card/Paper, Piece of Flash Paper, Pencil and Candle to be handed out to each participant as they arrive alongside the Order of Service
  • Set up “Space” where burning bowl and Candle Lighting Display will be
  • Decorate space and organize seating for burning bowl ceremony
  • Have a “plan” for how people will participate by going to and from the burning bowls and have ushers or others prepared to help facilitate that process.
  • Identify volunteers for service including Readers, Music, Ushers, Counters Etc.
  • The night of, set up the large bowl and candles that will be in it (candles preferably concealed by the bowl).
  • Creation and set up of Candle Lighting Display

 

 

 

 

Order of Service

(Total Time of Service & Fellowship – 2 Hours +/-)

 

  • Open – Song (Choir or Musical Guest)
  • Affirmative Prayer Invocation (Practitioner)
  • Welcome and Lighting of the Triune God Candle (Blessing Spirit, Soul and Body as lighting))
  • Congregational Song

 

  • Words on Love (Minister 5 minutes)
  • Candle Lighting and Affirmation by Volunteer(s) – Love
  • Words on Peace (Minister 5 Minutes)
  • Candle Lighting and Affirmation by Volunteer(s) – Peace
  • Song (Choir or Musical Guest)

 

  • Words on Life (Minister 5 Minutes)
  • Candle Lighting and Affirmation by Volunteer(s) – Life
  • Words on Joy (Minister 5 Minutes)
  • Candle Lighting and Affirmation by Volunteer(s) – Joy
  • Song (Choir or Musical Guest)

 

  • Burning Bowl Ceremony (Accompanied by Instrumental from Choir)

 

  • Words on Truth (Minister 5 Minutes)
  • Candle Lighting and Affirmation by Volunteer(s) – Truth
  • Words on Beauty (Minister 5 Minutes)
  • Candle Lighting and Affirmation by Volunteer(s) – Beauty
  • Song (Choir or Musical Guest)

 

  • Offering/Giving and Affirmation

 

  • Words on Light (Minister 5 Minutes)
  • Candle Lighting and Affirmation by Volunteer(s) – Light
  • Congregational Song “You Are the Light” by Amy Steinberg

 

  • Affirmative Prayer Benediction (Practitioner)
  • Peace Song Story and Closing Congregational Song – “Let There Be Peace On Earth”

 

 

 

“Burning Bowl” Process

  • Conduct a short (2 – 3 Minute) guided visualization having everyone imagine anything in their lives, mentality or consciousness that they would like to release. Have them boil it down to no more than 2 – 3 words if possible.

(While others are meditating, light the candles concealed in the burning bowl(s))

 

  • Have everyone write their words on their flash paper with pencil.

 

  • Demonstrate how to burn the flash paper over the burning bowl(s) now filled with burning candles.

 

  • Give instruction on how everyone will, in silence, come to the/a burning bowl(s) and release their “Challenge” into the flames and then return to their seats

 

*It is suggested to have music playing during this time. Also be sure to have planned out how the crowed will move to and from the bowl(s) before the service so ushers can help facilitate that process.

 

 

Readings and Affirmations

Love – Red

Reading:

Science of Mind Textbook – Page 608

“Love is the self-givingness of Spirit through the desire of Life to express Itself in terms of creation. Emerson tells us that Love is a synonym for God. We are also told in the New Testament that ‘He that loveth not, knoweth not God; for God is love.’ Love is free from condemnation, even as it is free from fear. Love is a cosmic force whose sweep is irresistible. “

 

Affirmation:

I am swept into the activity of Love in all that I do. My every action takes Love into consideration and allows me to claim the Love that God shares through me, for me and as me.

 

Peace – Blue

Reading:

Science of Mind Textbook – Page 617

“A state of inner calm. An inner calm so complete that nothing can disturb it. The peace that comes only from the knowledge that It is All. Fathomless Peace is meant by the Peace of the Spirit. This is the Peace to which Jesus referred when he said, ‘Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you.’ The infinite is always at Peace because there is nothing to disturb It. A realization of our Oneness with Omnipresence brings peace, the peace which is accompanied by a consciousness of Power.

 

Affirmation:

As I remember my connection to the Universe, I embody the Peace that allows me to know that I cannot be disturbed. This knowing allows me to be a presence in the world that brings calmness and harmony to all that I do.

 

Life – Green

Reading:

Science of Mind Textbook – Page 606

“The animating Principle of Being… That inner something that makes everything live… Life is That Which Lives, and power is the energy with which It operates… In the objective world, Life is the power that binds everything together. It appears that Life manifests on different levels… All are but different ways through which the One Power operates. Life, then, is that quality of Being, running through all, which enables anything to be what it is.

 

Affirmation:

There is one Life, that Life is God, that Life is perfect, that Life is my life now.

 

 

Joy – Yellow

Reading:

Science of Mind Textbook – Page 603

“The emotion excited by the expectancy of good. Gladness, delight, exultation. “

 

Joy is the absolute experience of our good in its fullest form moving through us. When we connect to the excitement of knowing that no matter what we do, that the Universe is doing it as us and through us then we become connected to the knowing that it is also working for us. Often confused with pleasure and happiness, Joy resides within and is expressed outwardly. No external condition can rob us of our joy nor can it impart to us more Joy. It is only by the activity of enthusiastically embracing our experience as one that emanates from within that Joy can be infused into our thoughts and actions. In this way, it is not fleeting, but an ever present Principle that has the ability to express at any point in which we have made ourselves available to celebrate our own goodness as the very goodness that God is.

 

Affirmation:

I am filled with the gladness and delight of knowing that no matter where I am or what I am doing, I am always receiving good. I live in the excitement and anticipation of that good in every moment.

 

Truth – Purple

Reading:

Science of Mind Textbook – Page 639

“That which is. It is the Reason, Cause and Power in and through everything. It is the Birthless, Deathless, Changeless, Complete, Perfect, Whole, Self-Existent, Causeless, All-Mighty, God, Spirit, Law, Mind, Intelligence, and Anything and Everything that implies reality. By a process of axiomatic reasoning, we arrive at the conclusion that Spirit knows nothing outside Itself. The Truth is That Which Is; and being That Which Is, It must be Infinite and All. Being Infinite or All, the Truth can have nothing outside itself, other than itself, or unlike itself, by which to divide itself; consequently, the Spirit is indivisible, changeless and complete within itself. Itself is All that Is – both Cause and Effect, the Alpha and the Omega.”

 

Affirmation:

The Truth of who I am realizes its wholeness by consciously knowing that I am an indivisible expression of God. I am complete as God is complete, perfect as I am a part of God, which is perfect in its wholeness.

 

 

Beauty – Pink

Reading:

Beauty is the act of God discovering and acknowledging itself. When we pause to admire a sunset, the blooming of a flower, a smile, a work of art or even an entire culture, we recognize the divine presence within these things that stirs up the feelings of appreciation and gratitude in us. Acknowledging the Beauty of the world around us in the manifest world is akin to acknowledging the grand and vast presence of God from whence all things come. It is the connection we find in ourselves and in the world around us that bespeaks of a universal goodness that makes all things possible; and in all of its wisdom it has created us and all that we see and imparted to us an opportunity to pay witness to its magnificence.

 

Affirmation:

I recognize the Beauty in all things knowing that doing so is to recognize that it is of God, as I am of God, and that we are one by means of it. I see the Beauty in everyone and everything and it reminds me of my own goodness.

 

Light – White

Reading:

Science of Mind Textbook – Page 607

“In flashes of illumination, the inspired have seen INTO THE VERY CENTER OF REALITY, and have brought back with them a distinct impression of what they have seen and felt. A glimpse of this reality, illumines the whole being with a flood of light. Every mystic has had this experience. Jesus was the greatest of all mystics; and once, at least, after a period of illumination, his face was so bright that his followers could not look upon it. In moments of deepest realization, the great mystics have sensed that One Life flows through ALL; and that ALL are some part of that life. They have also seen substance, a fine, white, brilliant stuff, forever falling into everything; a Substance indestructible and eternal. At time, the realization has been so complete that they have been actually blinded by the light. Light was the first great revelation of the Divine Creative Energy that called all living things into being… “Let there be light and there was light”. There is a healing light in the rays of the sun, which we term a physical light; there is a healing power in the wonderful high powered lamps, but how much greater is the healing power which Jesus recognized in himself and in others! “I am the light of the world; he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.” “…I have set the to be a light…” “He that loveth his brother abideth in the light.” “…the son’s of God, without rebuke… ye shine as lights in the world.”

 

Affirmation:

As I awaken to the realization that God is having it’s being by means of me, I embrace the light that illumines my path knowing that it shines from me, upon me and for my highest good. I celebrate the return of the light as my return to this knowing and am shown all that is mine to see.

 

“Let There Be Peace On Earth”

Lyrics and a Brief History

Sy Miller and Jill Jackson were a husband and wife songwriting team. In 1955 they wrote a song about their dream of peace for the world and how they believed each one of us could help create it.

They first introduced the song to a group of teenagers selected from their high schools to attend a weeklong retreat in California. The young people were purposefully from different religious, racial, cultural and economic backgrounds, brought together to experiment with creating understanding and friendship through education, discussion groups, and living and working together in a camp situation. Sy Miller wrote in his own words what happened:

“One summer evening in 1955, a group of 180 teenagers of all races and religions, meeting at a workshop high in the California mountains locked arms, formed a circle and sang a song of peace. They felt that singing the song, with its simple basic sentiment – ‘Let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me,’ helped to create a climate for world peace and understanding.”

When they came down from the mountain, these inspired young people brought the song with them and started sharing it. And, as though on wings, “Let There Be Peace On Earth” began an amazing journey around the globe. It traveled first, of course with the young campers back to their homes and schools, churches and clubs. Then the circle started by the teenagers began to grow. Soon the song was being shared in all fifty states – at school graduations and a PTA meetings, at Christmas and Easter gatherings and as part of the celebration of Brotherhood Week. It was a theme for Veteran’s Day, Human Rights Day and U.N. Day. 4-H Clubs and the United Auto Workers began singing it. So did the American Legion, the B’nai B’rith, the Kiwanis Clubs and CORE. It was taped, recorded, copied, printed in song books, and passed by word of mouth. The song spread overseas to Holland, England, France, Germany, Lebanon, South America, Asia and Australia. The Maoris in New Zealand sang it – even the Zulus in Africa sang it.

Professional singers took it up. Among them, Nat King Cole, Mary Tyler Moore, the International Children’s Choir, The Young Americans, Bing Crosby, Harry Connick Jr., and Bob Hope to list a small few.

The song began to win awards and “Let There Be Peace on Earth” was awarded the George Washington Honor Medal by the Freedom Foundation at Valley Forge for “Outstanding achievement in helping to bring about a better understanding of the American Way of Life.” It also received a Brotherhood Award from the National Conference of Christians and Jews. This simple thought, “Let there be peace on earth, and let it begin with me” first born on a mountain top in the voices of youth, continues to travel heart to heart – gathering in people everywhere who wish to become a note in a song of understanding and peace – peace for all humankind.

 

Let there be peace on earth
And let it begin with me.
Let there be peace on earth
The peace that was meant to be.
With God as creator
We are family
Let us walk with each other
In perfect harmony.

Let peace begin with me
Let this be the moment now.
With every step I take
Let this be my solemn vow.
To take each moment
And live each moment
In peace eternally.
Let there be peace on earth
And let it begin with me.

 

10 Ways Rituals Help Us Celebrate Our Lives

by Abigail Brenner, MD


Ritual has its roots in religion, and life’s fundamental passages are often traditionally accompanied by religious ritual. But life’s great passages are by nature spiritual. They affirm human mystery and mutability, our connection with the universal. Rituals serve as a bridge between our outer and inner worlds, between the profane and the sacred, and between the ordinary and the extraordinary.

Rituals afford us a sense of belonging. When we engage in the ritual process we are, in essence, connected to “original time.” Rituals awaken that which is eternal within us and show us how our individual lives are part of a much grander design.

Rituals connect us with nature and the seasons. The ongoing transitions that occur in nature provide the prototype for change. By watching the constant shifts and turns in nature we recognize our own cycles of life, our own rhythms as humans. Rituals remind us of the interconnectedness of all of life.

Rituals provide us with a sense of renewal. They offer us a time-out from our everyday routine and habitual existence. Metaphorically, rituals are oases, a time to rest, replenish, and restore ourselves on our long and winding path through life. Rituals help us to reevaluate our journey thus far and to reaffirm that the path we are traveling is the right one for us.

Rituals provide an ongoing way to structure our lives. The ritual process provides a sense of stability and continuity amidst the ever-changing, hectic, and often chaotic world in which we live. Rituals engender a sense of healing calm and a feeling of trust in life’s flow and forward movement.

Rituals give us a way to connect to family, past and present. Rituals tie us to our ancestors and to our heritage. Their creation and performance help us to understand where we came from. As a bridge between the past and the future, they enable us to access, honor, and strengthen our own identity.

Rituals remove us from the ordinary flow of life and place us in sacred space. It is out of the realm of ordinary space and time that rituals create their magic through the mysterious and mystical language of symbolic reenactment.

Rituals help us access our authentic selves through their ability to carry us into deeper levels of consciousness. By engaging all of our senses through the use of ritual elements inherent in the ritual process, we are able to bypass the intellect in favor of our intuitive, instinctive knowing. Rituals help us balance the work of our outer and inner lives and allow for the full expression of our soul and spirit.

Rituals provide the essential tools for co-creating our own lives. Creating and performing rituals that are personally meaningful to us helps us as evolving creations to set the exact intention that will ultimately enable us to manifest and reach desired goals and aspirations.

Rituals give meaning to our journeys and a sense of purpose to our lives. While the ongoing creation and performance of rituals prepare us for the next stages of life, the successive and cumulative practice of rituals over time has the power to ultimately transform us.

Rituals that mark “rites of passage”— major transitional turning points— help us ‘connect the dots.’ They help us find and define the patterns and cycles in our individual lives that might otherwise seem to be random happenings if viewed separately.

By creating and performing personally expressive rituals for ourselves we move freely into our own spiritual lives, taking charge of marking and honoring the transitions, the special moments in our lives that we find significant, in the ways we deem meaningful. Rituals are tools that give us the freedom to take responsibility for the direction and purpose of our lives. Our task is to seize and shape this freedom—consciously, deliberately, and joyfully.

Abigail Brenner, M.D. is a board-certified psychiatrist in private practice for more than 25 years and a Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association. Dr. Brenner has pursued her interest in clinical work, formerly as an attending physician at the Bellevue Hospital adult outpatient clinic and as a clinical assistant professor at New York University-Bellevue Medical Center. Her book Women’s Rites of Passage: How to Embrace Change and Celebrate Life was published by Rowman and Littlefield in Feb. 2007. Dr. Brenner lives in New York City with her husband and is a mother and grandmother. Be sure to visit her website: www.abigailbrenner.com

New Year’s Ritual

New Year’s Ritual – by Rev. Karyl Huntley
Materials needed:

  • A punch bowl with punch or a pot filled with a warm beverage
  • A cup for each person
  • Words and music for Auld Lang Syne
  • Each person’s personal calendar for the New Year
  • Writing material for each person

Set up for ritual: Everyone gathers around the punch bowl with their calendars and writing material.

Begin with the leader of the ritual saying: “We are gathered here to celebrate as our family and ancestors have done for at least 4,000 years. Tonight, we mark the passage of a year and the beginning of a new one. As we celebrate tonight, we remind ourselves of the preciousness of our blessings in the past, the importance of the present moment in creating our lives, and the certainty of each new day as a pristine gift until that day that we become ancestors of the generations to come.

“A song that has come to signify our celebration tonight is Auld Lang Syne. Let us sing it together now. (Everyone sings.) This is an old Scottish song that was written, at least in part, by Robert Burns in the 1700s. Auld Lang Syne translates into ‘old long ago’ or, as we would say today, ‘the good old days.’ In the song, the writer asks us whether old times and friends will be forgotten and then invites us to ‘take a cup of kindness yet’ in honor of those old friends and fond memories. So, I now invite all of you to take a cup of kindness by dipping into the punch bowl. One by one we will share a sweet memory of this past year or longer ago, something that is still alive and present in us as a blessing, and then we will all drink from our ‘cup of kindness’ to honor old friends and important memories.”

Everyone dips into the bowl and shares a memory, one at a time. This part can be done as a focused ritual or, more casually, over a meal.

The leader continues by saying, “Since the time of the Babylonians 4000 years ago, people have made New Year’s resolutions at the turn of the year. Perhaps we have all made resolutions, wishing that we would keep them, only to abandon them in a few days. This is like our ancestors, as well. The most common New Year’s resolution for the Babylonians was to return borrowed farm equipment. Since it was the most common resolution, we can imagine that they, too, had a hard time living up to their New Year’s promises. You are here with your calendars tonight to designate and record some time in them, in which you will actually do what you have resolved to do. You are also invited to declare your promises in the presence of family and friends who love you and wish for your fulfillment in the areas you wish fulfillment for yourself. As we go within to listen to Spirit, you may want to get some writing instrument and paper out to record the inspiration that comes to you.” (Everyone gets writing material out and prepares for a meditation.)

“In order to follow the promptings of Spirit, I invite you to close your eyes and go within. There are grand ideas that Spirit has to offer to you for yourself, for your family, and for the world. So, now in the silence, open to the inspiration, the urging, the movement of Spirit within as you hear this question, ‘What would Spirit have me do for myself this year?’’’

The leader pauses for a moment of silence as the participants open to their divine inspiration and then record their notes to themselves. The same procedure continues for the next two questions.

  • “What would Spirit have me do for, or with, my family this year?”
  • “What would Spirit have me do for the world this year?”

After the group has finished their visioning and note taking, the leader continues, “Please look over the notes you have made in answer to the questions offered to the Spirit within you. Allow yourself to come to a decision or choice about what you can offer a wholehearted ‘Yes!’ to and then record what you resolve to do and when you will do it or begin it in your calendars.” (Everyone does this.)

“I now invite you to speak your resolutions in this loving group so we can all support you in completing your intentions.” (Everyone does this.)

“Now, to deepen our resolve to accomplish what Spirit has put before us, please repeat after me.”

The leader prompts the group to repeat this vow by offering the group a few words at a time.

“In committing to these resolutions, I know that the desires to accomplish these actions are planted in me by Spirit. I know that within Spirit are all the means for accomplishing anything. I know of no barriers to accomplishing these things to which I have committed my heart and my hands, since I have chosen to say ‘Yes!’ to Spirit. I know Spirit supports, directs, and sustains me through everything I do, and so, I am resolved to do what I have promised to do with the assistance of the innermost God of my being and the transcendent God of all time and space. So be it now for the good of all and the harm of none.”

Everyone takes a moment to congratulate and encourage one another. Then the leader continues.

“Beloveds, from the same tradition that brought the song for this holiday, Auld Lang Syne, comes another New Year’s tradition called ‘first-footing.’ The tradition states that the first person you see in the New Year signifies your good or not-so-good fortune for the coming year. The custom of ‘first-footing’ involved friends going to other friends’ homes in the first hours of a New Year and giving them wishes for success and happiness, thereby ensuring a good year for them. Tonight we will do our own version of ‘first-footing’ by going up to our friends and family in this gathering and speaking our wishes for them.” (Everyone does this.)

“We now conclude our New Year’s celebration by singing Auld Lang Syne once again and vowing to ourselves to make more memories this coming year which will join our other precious never-to-be-forgotten blessings that we keep safe in our hearts.”

Everyone sings the wonderful old song and concludes the celebration with full hearts.

If you enjoy using this ritual as part of your holiday celebration, you will love Rev. Karyl’s new book, “Real Life Rituals,” published by Spiritual Living Press. Using the book as a guide for celebrating seasonal changes, holidays, and life transitions will enrich and deepen your everyday experiences of life. The book can be ordered directly from DeVorss (http://devorss.com/display.cgi?tpl=item&record=1323).

Rituals

10 Ways Rituals Help Us Celebrate Our Lives

Self-created ceremonies give meaning and order to our personal lives.

By creating and performing personally expressive rituals for ourselves, we move freely into our own spiritual lives. We take charge of marking and honoring the transitions and special moments in our lives that we find significant, in ways we deem meaningful. Rituals are tools that give us the freedom to take responsibility for the direction and purpose of our lives. Our task is to seize and shape this freedom—consciously, deliberately, and joyfully.

Here are 10 ways rituals can help us celebrate our lives.

1. Rituals serve as a bridge between our outer and inner worlds, between the profane and the sacred, and between the ordinary and the extraordinary.

Ritual has its roots in religion, and life’s fundamental passages are often traditionally accompanied by religious ritual. But life’s great passages are by nature spiritual. They affirm human mystery and mutability, our connection with the universal.

2. Rituals afford us a sense of belonging.

When we engage in the ritual process we are, in essence, connected to “original time.” Rituals awaken that which is eternal within us and show us how our individual lives are part of a much grander design.

3. Rituals connect us with nature and the seasons.

The ongoing transitions that occur in nature provide the prototype for change. By watching the constant shifts and turns in nature we recognize our own cycles of life, our own rhythms as humans. Rituals remind us of the interconnectedness of all of life.

4. Rituals provide us with a sense of renewal.

They offer us a time-out from our everyday routine, habitual existence. Metaphorically, rituals are oases, a time to rest, replenish, and restore ourselves on our long and winding path through life. Rituals help us to reevaluate our journey thus far and to reaffirm that the path we are traveling is the right one for us.

5. Rituals provide an ongoing way to structure our lives.

The ritual process provides a sense of stability and continuity amidst the ever-changing, hectic, and often chaotic world in which we live. Rituals engender a sense of healing calm and a feeling of trust in life’s flow and forward movement.

5. Rituals give us a way to connect to family, past and present.

Rituals tie us to our ancestors and to our heritage. Their creation and performance help us to understand where we came from. As a bridge between the past and future, they enable us to access, honor, and strengthen our own identity.

6. Rituals remove us from the ordinary flow of life and place us in a sacred space.

It is out of the realm of ordinary space and time that rituals create their magic through the mysterious and mystical language of symbolic reenactment.

7. Rituals help us access our authentic selves by carrying us into deeper levels of consciousness.

By engaging all of our senses through the use of ritual elements inherent in the ritual process, we are able to bypass the intellect in favor of our intuitive, instinctive knowing. Rituals help us balance the work of our outer and inner lives and allow for the full expression of our soul and spirit.

8. Rituals provide the essential tools for co-creating our own lives.

Creating and performing rituals that are personally meaningful to us helps us as evolving creations to set the exact intention that will ultimately enable us to manifest and reach desired goals and aspirations.

9. Rituals give our lives a sense of meaning and purpose.

While the ongoing creation and performance of rituals prepares us for the next stages of life, the successive and cumulative practice of rituals over time has the power to ultimately transform us.

10. Rituals that mark “rites of passage” — major transitional turning points — help us “connect the dots.”

They help us find and define the patterns and cycles in our individual lives that might otherwise seem to be random happenings if viewed separately.

About the Author
Abigail Brenner M.D.

Abigail Brenner, M.D., is a psychiatrist in private practice. She is the author of Transitions: How Women Embrace Change and Celebrate Life and other books.

ICONOCLASTIC RITUAL

ICONOCLASTIC RITUAL
The Underlying Instinctual Sources of Paratheatre

©1991 Antero Alli


The word “ritual” (as used hereafter) refers to any activity amplifying the simultaneous awareness of oneself and the environment. To vivify one’s place in the cosmos and thus, to engage in deeper levels of participation remains a chief ritual function after aeons past. Differing from ritual, the term “routine” refers to any activity having the distinct effect of diminishing awareness of oneself and the environment.

An understanding and practice of both — of ritual and routine — reveals their underlying marriage as a working polarity: an effective ritual gets you as high as a good routine restabilizes you. Get stuck in either, and the whole engine grinds to a dull roar — from too many routines — or leaves you feeling like a live wire desperately searching for ground. Like an ON-OFF switch on the inside wall of our hindbrains, routines shut down the “portal to infinity” opened up by an activating ritual. Conversely, when we are stuffed to the gills with personal growth and change (our own and others’), doing the laundry or cleaning the house can feel awfully good.

Cursory observation informs us that we humans are a highly ritualistic species: we thrive on them. Rituals, like the spiritualities they sustain, are a highly personal endeavour. Almost anything can be spiritual and almost anybody can make a religion of almost anything: from professional football to the Catholic High Mass. There are also as many different ways to approach ritual knowledge and execution as there are spiritual orientations necessitating them.

My bias around ritual-making is decidedly iconoclastic: concept-free ceremony is as good as it gets. Concept-free ritual is just that. I don’t want to conform to any dogma or doctrine to do a ritual; I want the ritual itself to show me what I believe in and what I’m living for (see my book, “Towards an Archeology of the Soul“). Iconoclastic ritual is expositional. It works to the extent you are willing and able to expose yourself to yourself. It’s obviously not for everybody; just imagine a temple of iconoclasts.

To instill life into a dead routine or to create ritual anew, there must be some way to experience the effects of living forces. This is almost impossible to any mind self-preoccupied with ideas, concepts, and icons about the living forces themselves. The author of this article supposes that forces, that is to say life itself, exist beyond the creation of mental constructs. In addition, without a profound initial receptivity to living forces, no real ritual is possible.

To bypass concepts and other self-created ideations, we look to the instinctive functions and conditions inherent to the brain itself. Brain research (MacLean and associates) informs us how we’ve inherited the central core ganglia of our brain from our reptilian ancestors and that instincts such as aggression, territoriality, and homesite selection are now innate to human behaviour. In other words, these attributes are imbedded so deeply in our nature they will not go away.

 

The Space Itself

Once made conscious, certain instincts can be refined and put to work as vitalistic ritual skills capable of enhancing any ceremony, regardless of philosophical orientation. The homesite instinct, for example, is part of a larger geomantic sensibility rooted in our innate indivisibility with the earth below — it works because we are one with the planet. We sense this whenever there’s enough resonance with and/or against a particular locale to change our feelings about that place.

Whether camping in a wilderness region or walking along an urban sprawl or waiting inside a suburban tract house, this instinct tells us the degree we feel “at home” wherever we are and if we feel comfortable enough to settle there and even take root. If we’re listening, it also tells us when to exit a certain place due to feelings of unrest, disquiet, or general “bad” vibes. When developed, the homesite selection instinct fine tunes our bodies into the instinctive talent of a human dowsing rod, interacting with the living earth wherever we go.

As a ritual skill, the homesite selection instinct may favor one place over another depending on the type of ceremony to be executed: certain rites for certain sites, in other words. Every region, indoors and out, is carried by its own unique energy: its flows, contours, and qualitative characteristics. Some places are just more conducive for certain ritual intents than others, e.g. the Australian aborigines go to the mountain (Ayers Rock) to engage their dreamtime ceremonies. When recognized and worked with, this instinct can reinforce ritual integrity by connecting it to the tellurian, or wilderness current of the planet itself.

Once a suitable place has been chosen, the territorial instinct can be worked to assist the process of owning the space for the ensuing ceremony. By marking the area — designating its center and its peripheral boundaries — one begins the necessary process of taking temporary dominion over the ritual setting.

We control the setting to minimize interruptions and those influences unnecessary to realizing the ritual intent, whatever that may be. As an instinct, all animals stalk, claim, and mark turf in a certain way; human animals do it more idiosyncratically. Given the task, every individual has their own unique way of taking charge of and claiming their own space. Watch the way any child cleans up their room or the behavioral adjustments any adult makes to secure a place in a crowded subway car.

It is often the spirit of a place itself that first moves us, whether we are cognizant of it or not. Certain spaces and bioregions inspire the desire to commemorate the occasion of simply being there, i.e. building a bonfire on an abandoned beach after sunset. In group ritual process, participants can own the setting without getting in each other’s way if the space itself is related to as a value. A group ritual intent of paying homage to the space itself, before commencing anything else, often has the effect of unifying that group within the spirit of that given place — an effective beginning for any ritual process.

 

Preparing the Setting

Closely related to the territorial instinct are the more concentrated sensations of aggression, an instinctive response to overcrowding, invasion, and inflicted violation. Aggression, as used here, refers to the “fight-or-flight” adrenaline reaction to protect oneself under real conditions of imposed threat. Even though aggression is more repressed in some people and more obviously out of control in others, it can be called upon to banish unwanted forces and entities from any space we have valued enough to call our own. Without this instilled value, however, there’s less incentive to protect the territory. Without some aggression, we’re as helpless as victims can be.

As a ceremonial skill, aggression can be converted through the directed force of banishment. Banishment assists the process of setting up conditions for the ritual aspirants to command their space from the center out to the periphery, i.e. complete dominion over the space. Banishment is the territorial boundary-creating instinct amplified to its highest expression of directed force. From the ancient shaman’s task of banishing “evil” spirits away from the sick to heal them, to the more contemporary hermetic banishing rituals summoning the archetypal forces of the archangels addressing the four directions, banishment serves to control the setting of a designated area to assure sound accomplishment of ritual intent.

Iconoclastic rituals tend to banish icons and concepts associated with the four direct-ions (or anything whatsoever) in lieu of direct firsthand knowledge of the nameless forces that be. How this be done will be referred to later as the state of No-Form. Iconoclastic intention prefers open-ended contact with energies, or spirits, over the symbolic buffers of second-hand names and labels. Direct-knowledge inspires the possibility for naming the forces yourself, according to your own symbolic responses to their effects. By naming the forces, the iconoclast develops his/her own language to communicate the evolution of his/her own idiosyncratic culture.

Once a place has been chosen and owned sufficiently for ritual commencement, a more subtle instinct can be accessed to instill the space with individual and collective blessings. The ritual function of sanctification (or benediction) is probably the refinement of a mammalian instinct localized in the limbic system of the brain. The limbic, or emotional, brain (intermediating the central reptilian brain with the peripheral neo-cortex) evolved throughout our instinctual history as warm-blooded mammals nursed and cared for their young.

Here, the nesting instinct provides the emotional rooting structure for human domestication and the talent for transforming an empty house into a home. When transposed and elevated to a ceremonial enhancer, the nesting instinct can change an empty space into a holy sanctuary. Once sophisticated, it gathers and organizes such ritual paraphernalia as candles, incense, garb, pillars, and other traditional tools and weapons — all towards creating “home environment” for the rite at hand.

 

On Charging a Ritual

Once again, we look to our daily affairs to notice remnants of our personal domestic style — those ways we maintain the power of dwelling. It shouldn’t take long to see how every person domesticates in their own way and at their own pace. Those individuals with compatible domestic styles are blessed with the support of belonging to a clan; they are family, together.

Dissident domestic styles eventually disperse, unable to form sufficient bonds. If you are a dissident minority in a larger compatible clan structure, most likely you will be scapegoated or somehow banished and uprooted; you find another home (sometimes, a scapegoat can be integral to a clan structure stability). In a similar fashion, the sanctification of a ritual space relies on the unity of those working that space. One weak link drains the power.

Numerous ritual traditions involve a form of prayer, or group prayer circle, to bond each aspirant with the collective field. Singing, drumming and chanting are also traditional expressions for the blessing of a space. Concept-free, or iconoclastic, prayer encourages direct intuitive merging with one’s own contact with the source of life — wherever and whatever that may be. From here, an idiosyncratic approach to “source relations” emboldens an indigenous spirituality, one that is innate to oneself. The process of sanctifying a surrounding ritual space through the direct emanation and transmission of spiritual power is initially absorbed in one’s source relations.

In traditional religious rituals, the priest sanctifies the congregational space by his communion with the deity. In iconoclastic ritual, everyone is their own priest and priestess; there are no middlemen between person and divinity. By establishing a strong devotional connection with one’s inner vertical source, one can then begin radiating this force externally — horizontally — throughout the space itself by chanting singing, moving, and/or dancing (as long as these activities remain motivated by the previous source relations). Any space is blessed by the spiritual presence instilled therein.

By now, the space has been prepared for ritual. The imminent task of charging a ritual — of activating the forces to be worked — depends entirely on one’s initial receptivity to them. Without the ability to empty one’s mind and temporarily bypass identification with thoughts, there can be no effective ritual. Without establishing some personal discipline engaging No-Mind, aspirants risk the delusion of thinking a living force is contacted when, in fact, only a concept or icon of that force is met. The result is often a contrived and rote rite — a routine — accompanied by an inflated ego’s attachment to the map instead of the territory. How self-aggrandizing can the prospect of becoming one of the gods get?

Does calling the name of Jupiter or Shiva instantly qualify its embodiment? Ego-inflamation can be remedied soon enough just by conscious choice to enter a state of intimacy with void, or nothingness. Shunryu Suzuki’s masterful book, Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind (Weatherhill) remains an excellent reference to the practice of No-Mind for novices and adepts alike.

 

Intimacy with Void

Physicists inform us that only miniscule portion of the known universe is made up of “matter”; most of it is boundless space. Quantum mechanics reveals how subatomic matter is no more solid than a quivering dance of particles. Buddhism suggests that our true nature is formless, colorless . . . without name, shape or description. As the earth spins along its trajectory through deep space, so do our lives.

We can choose to grow aware of the infinite void around and within us, or continue buffering ourselves from the inevitable; that is a choice everyone invariably makes. Embracing solitude and relating directly with nothingness takes an act of extraordinary will, an intention set apart from mere habit and instinct. This attribute stems from the cognitive neo-cortex frontal lobes of the brain; it is why a human being can no longer be just an animal anymore. Avoidance of solitude is the last impediment to direct intimacy with the fertile void.

Solitude begins meditation. Mystical systems worldwide refer to this void state with a plethora of exotic names: kether, samadhi, ain sof, the fool, cloud of unknowing, potentia, great spirit, the illuminated gate, and so forth. All are symbols referring to a reality beyond the symbolic realm for the sole purpose of informing the symbol-eating intellect of conditions existing beyond its comprehension, beyond its control . . . beyond itself, period. Intellects that can handle the void tend to illuminate the mystical, i.e. they still serve those who witness and register forces beyond the grasp of immediate analysis.

I’ve selected the iconoclastic term of No-Form for referring to the concept-free process of intimacy with formless void. The meditation of No-Form tends to function most effectively before and after each and every ritual. By entering a No-Form meditation before summoning and engaging the forces intended, a state of profound recept-ivity can occur — serving to accumulate the necessary charge for animating any ritual. This also minimizes the tendency to contrive a routine. By emptying out after each ritual, participants don’t have to walk away from the ritual site all “charged up,” i.e. inflated, overheated, and otherwise full of themselves.

No-Form functions as if it were a kind of gateway to and from the realm of the archetypes, the dynamic elements responsible for animating and transforming consciousness. The term “archetype” refers to those autonomous forces residing within our psyche and also sharing outer correspond-ences in the world around us; they are universal symbols capable of eliciting personal response.

Examples include: Dream, Death, Creation, Destruction, Order, Chaos, The Four Elements, Growth, Decay, Shadow, Angels, Demons, and all other terms symbolic of transformative process. One odd and wonderful thing about No-Form is that, generally speaking, it cannot be taught. All words fall short to describe it, and all descriptions are subjective responses at best. There are, however, certain preliminary conditions conducive to its expression; No-Form can be invited.

 

The No-Form Stance

No-Form begins wherever one is already aware of the surrounding void, within and without. In context to ritual process we can bypass the traditional Buddhist sitting post-ures, and instead, locate the personal No-Form stance — thus setting the stage for No-Form as a catalyst to physical motion, rather than a passive end unto itself. This can be accomplished by any standing position supporting physical balance — a stance of readiness. While watching the breath, gradually emphasize the exhale to encourage a sense of emptying; let the inhale become an involuntary reflex.

Internally, relax your desire to control. If this previous suggestion elicits a sense of nausea (in the solar plexus area), it may indicate your resistance to relaxing control. This natural enough, control is necessary to survival. To break through the resistance, breathe through the nausea while relaxing your desire to control. Continue incorporating whatever you already know about bypassing thought processes. No-Form meditation practice is a mandatory ritual discipline for anyone concerned with establishing authentic source relations and its expression externally in the world; the No-Form stance prepares us for action.

 

Sample Ritual Session

Stage I: Select an appropriate setting, one where you feel safe enough to act uninterrupted for the better part of an hour or more; this can be indoors or outside. Physically demarcate and define the outside periphery and the center of the setting; set this space apart. Within the boundaries of the setting, select a smaller area to begin claiming as your personal space; demarcate its boundaries and center in addition to banishing from it any energies that are not your own. From inside your personal space enter a meditation or a prayer to establish source relations. From the devotional connection with your source of life, sanctify your personal space.

Stage II: Step outside your personal circle and, while facing it, enter a stance conducive to No-Form. Stay in No-Form until you’ve stopped trying and thinking and doing and being anything. BE NOTHING. Send into your personal space that unnameable quality that represents “what is most true to you here and now.” Feel and sense the life of this quality before you as you drop down into deeper levels of No-Form. When your No-Form is true, enter the circle.

Stage III: Absorb the quality into yourself. Breathe it in. Instead of trying to direct yourself or control the direction of the energy, create enough space inside you for the direct expression of the quality itself. Let the quality move you; begin following the movement of the quality. The energy has its own intent; it does not need any help. Give your whole body to the expression of this quality and stay with the force until you feel done. When you feel done, exit the circle and return to No-Form; stay there until the charge has dissipated. The ritual experiment is over.

 

Accelerating the Work

If deeper engagement with archetypal forces is desired, own your space more vigorously; apply more focused force to the banishing ritual. This will have the effect of encouraging your presence. After banishing, create a physical warm-up period lasting 30-60 minutes. Include activities for stretching muscles, flexing the spinal column, and breaking a sweat.

The more the body is felt deeply, the more willing the animal becomes to engage higher energy levels, i.e. the archetypes. When it’s time for No-Form, stay there longer. The deeper the impression from whatever archetype is invoked or evoked. Make note: the more profound the archetypal impression, the greater the charge accompanying it. The greater the charge, the greater the No-Form needed afterwards to dissipate the excess force.

This reminds us how scrupulous ritual is carried by other intentions than the inflationary goal of getting “shot up with oneself.” The question everyone should ask of themselves before undertaking ritual process always concerns itself with intent: “Why am I (are we) doing this?” What is the ritual intent? With a group, this question helps focus the collective purpose as well as assuring the continuity of ongoing work, without which there would be no evidence for the value of doing it in the first place.

 

This article first appeared in Quest Magazine, USA (1991).
It was republished in Towards 2012 parts IV & V: Paganism & Apocalypse
(The Unlimited Dream Company, 1998).